Question to the stylist: Tell me, how should a 32-38 year old mother of two boys dress?
Stylist Elena Aksyutenko answers how to dress a young mother: It’s nice that you think about yourself, you want to look stylish and elegant, despite the huge number of worries. In fact, looking fashionable is really important for moms at any age. A tastefully dressed, well-groomed mother deserves great respect. Unfortunately, more often I see two opposite pictures: either a mother walks with her child in an old, worn-out tracksuit, or the modern generation of mothers who do not want to part with miniskirts, heels and cleavage. It is very sad to watch when a mother tries to bend over in a short skirt to give her baby a rattle. In principle, vulgar clothes do not suit any girl, least of all a mother.
What mistakes do mothers make most often?
They wear clothes that they don’t mind - washed T-shirts, old jeans and sneakers, stretched sweaters. Of course, it’s convenient to walk, but this has nothing to do with style.
No makeup. Even if you don’t wear makeup at all or when it’s hot (which is very important now), your skin and eyebrows deserve to be looked after. Believe me, this is actually very noticeable.
Somewhat pinned up hair. A casual style is only good on movie screens, which, by the way, takes several hours to achieve.
They wear stiletto heels or huge heels. You can't run too much in the sand in these shoes.
Dress up short dresses, skirts, bold necklines, transparent clothes. If you really like minis, please, but with leggings.
They hang themselves with jewelry. Remember the rule of three. It is better to use scarves and scarves.
Long nails. They are not in fashion.
Now about the pleasant things.
What is best for a new mother?
Of course, comfort is above all, BUT style, elegance, femininity have not been canceled!
Stylish jeans, capris and shorts, but let the jeans have at least a mid-waistline; in extreme cases, wear them with a bodysuit, a very comfortable thing, especially in winter. And the length of the shorts should not exceed the distance of the palm from the knee.
Done on time haircut and coloring. It’s better not to wear makeup at all than to walk around with overgrown roots (this, by the way, is the opinion of men as well).
Bright jackets, jackets and coats. If you are hesitant, try to avoid black, although many consider it practical. Believe me, brown and gray will also go with almost any clothes.
- Overalls. The main thing is that it fits correctly, not baggy, and not necessarily denim.
- Large roomy bags, but in proportion to the figure.
- Comfortable shoes. Let it be ballet shoes, but they can become an accent.
- Maxi skirts and sundresses. But without fanaticism, so that they are comfortable when active movement. The ugliest length is mid-calf. Either shorter or longer is better.
We will select several ensembles, taking into account today's fashion trends, that will help a young mother dress.
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Probably, any young woman over 30 who strives to dress fashionably and up-to-date has at least once worried: “Am I dressed too teenagely today, isn’t that funny?” After all, everyone remembers how sad pink checkered skirts or tight T-shirts look on 50-year-old ladies.
Female half website I studied how famous fashionistas dress to look young, but not girlish. We share our findings with you. And let’s say right away: there is no advice to forget about minis forever and switch exclusively to pencil skirts and refreshing colors. In the end, only we can decide how and what to wear.
Bag and backpack: strict outlines instead of shapelessness
A shapeless large backpack or sack bag simplifies the look and gives it teenage traits. If you need to carry a lot of things with you, it is better to choose a roomy bag with clear outlines, like this one Miranda Kerr. Or a geometric backpack - and without owls and rivets - like Kate Bosworth's.
Crop Tops: With High Waist Skirt
Crop tops are stylish, yes. And I want to wear it. But most of us had a belly like a board only in our early youth. “Girls over 30” should wear a short top with a skirt at the waist, so that only a narrow strip of skin is visible and the navel is covered - this way the stomach looks flatter. By the way, this combination creates correct proportions body: balances the top and bottom and makes the legs longer.
Skinny: with chunky shoes or heels
Skinny jeans have a bad habit of making your butt and thighs heavier and presenting your figure in an unfavorable light. Therefore, it is better to choose a looser top and not combine them with ballet flats or other minimalist shoes. It is worth wearing high heels, ankle boots, heavy boots or sports shoes.
Tight dresses vs. dresses to fit your figure
A tight knitted dress - only a young girl can afford this if she has an ideal body. It is worth choosing a seductively figure-hugging dress, but not tight. And if there are voluminous details in the upper part, for example a puffy sleeve, this will give that very desired balance of top and bottom and will decorate the figure.
Sports shoes with a dress or coat: simple cut
A light floral dress and sports shoes are a definite no. This combination would look ridiculous on someone over 20 years old. It is better to choose a dress with a clean and simple cut, perhaps a sporty silhouette. In addition, you should prefer sports-style shoes rather than sneakers designed specifically for sports or classic sneakers. If you still decide on sneakers or sports sneakers, you should choose something very calm, like a straight coat without unnecessary details, like Alexa Chung (below).
Shorts: loose fit, closed top, good shoes
Choose loose models made of thick fabric that hold their shape well and do not wrinkle. Shorts made of lace and other thin fabrics, more reminiscent of panties, increase the butt and actually suit only a few. Of course, the top should be loose and not too open. Another good way- wearing shorts is chic. Not with flip-flops, like on the beach, but with good shoes and a bag, like Olivia Palermo (the “correct” photo on the right).
Aggressive sexy style vs. intelligent sexuality
30-something is the time of intelligent sexuality. Neckline, lacing, high slit, short skirt - all this should be performed solo. Victoria Beckham knows a lot about discreet but effective sexuality, and you can safely take an example from her.
Fitted fluffy dresses vs. A-line dresses
Light dresses with an elasticated waist are associated exclusively with young girls. And, hand on heart, let’s say that they decorate few people, even Jennifer Aniston. It is worth choosing A-line dresses, fitted and not so fitted. They draw attention to slender legs and create a feeling of fragility of the figure.
Miniskirt: thick fabric and loose top
If you read online about how to dress for girls over 30, you can repeatedly come across advice to throw the mini in the trash. And we categorically disagree. What if someone has just discovered this miracle? In our youth, when we were dissatisfied with ourselves, we were shy, but now, on the contrary, we have gained confidence. We believe that you can and should wear a mini. You just have to apply the well-known rule: the top must be closed. Let's also add: it is better to choose a slightly loose top, do not expose your stomach and no knitted skirts - only models that keep their shape (like Miranda Kerr in the “correct” photo).
Women strive look younger than your age and make every effort to achieve this. This is how it was and how it will always be. Sometimes we look at young-looking women and are simply amazed: how do they do it? Perhaps entire teams of cosmetologists, makeup artists, pharmacists and even sometimes surgeons are working on the recipes of their youth. But clothing also matters, sometimes decisively. Dress correctly and you will look at least five years younger than your age. Dress incorrectly and you've given yourself ten extra years, despite all the advances in cosmetology. People form their first impression of you in a few seconds, and the determining factor at this moment is your overall appearance. And it is determined by what you are wearing. Does everyone remember the old proverb “You are greeted by your clothes”? So, our age is mentally determined first by our clothes. Don’t repeat common mistakes, follow our rules and you will always look younger than your age - at 40, 50, 60, and later.
Rule 1. If you want to look young, don’t dress pretentiously!
Everything that fashion publications call “eternal classics”, as well as all things and materials that are considered “status” - fur, velvet, crocodile skin, elegant silk scarves, expensive bags, large valuable jewellery, all these “eternal” strings of pearls on your neck and diamond brooches on the lapel of your jacket add not only status to you, but also years. Especially when you're wearing all of these at the same time.
A strict, overly formal image is a sign of mature age; in youth no one is too serious. Therefore, dilute your outfit with simple elements and democratic materials, especially when you are not limited by strict dress code requirements. A jacket or cardigan with plus Oxfords, brogues or ballet shoes - it always looks younger and more dynamic than strict pantsuit and classic pumps. And if it’s a trouser suit, then wear it with a T-shirt or vest and you will look fresher than in combination with a traditional plain blouse or “men’s” shirt. Stylish bracelet made of leather and fashion jewelry of a modern design on the neck - this does not add any years, and it looks more appropriate in an everyday outfit than gold and diamonds.
Pictured are actresses Susan Sarandon and Laura Linney. There is almost a generation difference between them: Susan was born in the 40s, Laura in the 60s. Both are dressed democratically and modernly, both look young and are perceived almost as peers.
Street look of Hollywood stars - skinny jeans and flat shoes
In what do you think Meryl Streep looks younger and brighter - in a traditional business set of a gray jacket and a silver blouse tied with a bow, or in a modern black coat of a current style with an informal tie? Note that everything else remains the same - hair color, hairstyle silhouette, makeup, even the same glasses!
Rule 2. If you want to look young, dress up to date
Over the years, many women get used to focusing less on fleeting fashion and more on what suits them personally. If you managed to develop your own recognizable style that is in harmony with your external appearance and internal content, that’s great! This is what we should ideally strive for. The only bad thing is if this “own style” is based on silhouettes and combinations that were fashionable during your youth. Attachment to decisions that were outdated twenty years ago reveals your age better than any passport.
You still have to follow fashion if you want to look young. This doesn't mean you need to blindly copy everything you saw on the runway. And this does not mean that classic things should be abandoned. Not at all! But if you up to date with fashion trends, then you can add one or two details to a calm classic set - a correctly tied scarf, fashion accessory, - and this will immediately make your appearance relevant and you modern. And certainly if you follow fashion trends, then in time you will abandon the silhouettes of your youth, no matter how they once decorated you. There is a time for everything, some things should go in time.
Olga Kabo and Oksana Fandera are almost the same age. Both are over 45, Oksana is even a year older than Olga. Both take care of themselves and look great. But which of them is dressed better in these photos? Who looks younger? Olga is wearing a bright red tight-fitting rubber dress strewn with sequins, as if miraculously preserved in a closet from the early 90s. Then, at the first post-Soviet discos, which were urgently renamed nightclubs, in such a knitted dress, with these earrings of the “seen from afar” system and with this “ideal” hair varnished to death - Olga Kabo would have been a star! And now she looks, as the French say, démodé - out of fashion, outdated, as if stuck in the aesthetics of twenty years ago.
Oksana is careless collected hair and fashionable, simple and concise flared dress exquisite mustard color. A stylish touch is a hat to match the dress of the current style. Oksana has excellent taste; in the simplicity and modesty of her outfit there is depth and a sense of the moment. She is dressed modernly and therefore looks younger!
Rule 3. How to look younger: don’t try to look young!
T-shirts with bears and Cheburashkas, from cartoons, hairpins with bows and flowers, ribbons in hair, girlish “school” dresses with white collars, high knee socks combined with short skirts... All these are attributes of the wardrobe of a teenage girl, and even on a young girl 25 they look like a deliberate and loud declaration of infantilism. “I’m so small, stupid, naive, but at the same time so cute, right? Save me, good daddy, otherwise I’ll be lost!”, such an outfit tells the world on behalf of its owner. And let’s be honest, a similar message often resonates with men of a certain type.
But naivety is a perishable commodity. After 25, no one will buy it from you, and if at the age of 40 you have nothing to offer the world except your naivety and immaturity... Well, maybe you shouldn’t at least shout about it with all your might?
Bambi sweatshirts caused a stir at the show Givenchy last year, and they were immediately considered necessary to be walked by all the fashion divas. Including the odious Anna dello Russo, who is over 50. A cartoonish photo print on a sweatshirt and a mini, so risque that it makes you wonder if she forgot to put on a skirt, are severely dissonant with Anna’s face and its expression. No matter how slender your legs are, no matter how many cosmetologists and even surgeons work on your face, no one will draw you young, naive, girlish eyes like Bambi’s. And without them, a sweatshirt with a deer does not make you look younger, but, on the contrary, only emphasizes your age.
Britney Spears is over 30. It would seem that this is generally not the age when something special is needed dress to look younger. Indeed, in simple jeans and a laconic Marsala-colored sleeveless top, Britney looks like a young, slender and very pretty woman. But on stage she puts on something like what she looked great in when she was 18 years old - short shorts on her hips and a bra with molded cups. And - Oops! She did it again! — we see a middle-aged woman with a body that is far from ideal, who for some reason is trying to pretend to be a teenage starlet. And this only adds to her age.
Britney Spears in life and on stage. In life - better!
Rule 4: Well-chosen colors will make you look younger.
When you wear a dress or top of “your” color, your face comes alive, your eyes become brighter, your skin becomes fresher. Colors that are not suitable for you make your face dull, do not emphasize your natural colors, but, on the contrary, extinguish them. Too much dark colors create unhealthy pallor; unsaturated, as if faded colors give you a kind of “faded”, tired look. All this does not matter fundamentally when you are young, you have peachy skin, a blush all over your cheek and your eyes sparkle. Over the years, the picture changes, and you should be more careful in choosing colors. Be sure to apply things to your face in natural lighting, not store lighting. Choose only those shades that truly adorn you. The right colors will add radiance to your face and make it look younger.
Here is actress Julianne Moore. The two photos on the right were taken in 2015, you won't believe she is 54 years old! And the photo on the left - you won’t believe it again - was taken in 1998, she’s not forty! The soft creamy color of the dress Juliana wore to her Oscar in 2015 is refreshing and allows her face and hair to pop with color! The deep emerald color is simply destiny for such red-haired, green-eyed beauties, it’s as if she was born into it! Women of this type should wear such rich green both on weekdays and on holidays! But in a dark blue “ladies’” dress from 1998 with a heavy neckline, Juliana looks almost older than her current self. Beware of such “elegant” colors and styles, they will age anyone!
Rule 5. Stylish negligence makes you look young, but sloppiness makes you look old!
If you follow fashion, you know that sleek, tone-on-tone sets and sleek, varnished hairstyles are not in trend these days. There is a certain carelessness and ease in fashion. Your efforts should not be visible, everything in your appearance should seem to say: “This is how I woke up.” Yes, yes, and I put on the first thing that came to hand. But we must understand that negligence is different! Carelessness should not be confused with sloppiness and indifference.
Conspicuously expensive outfits can make you look older, as we have already found out above, but overtly cheap or simply worn-out items do not make you look younger either. Hipster chic - uncut hems with threads hanging from them, stretched sweaters with loose loops, worn-out jeans, washed tops, worn bags - all this can look funny and touching on a student girl who still has everything ahead of her. This “ahead” has already arrived for you. And you don't have to wear expensive things, but at least your things should look high quality and not worn out. Otherwise, you give the impression of a loser who doesn’t care, who is not able to earn money even for new jeans. And this only adds years and fatigue to you.
When we see a girl of about 20 on the street in a wrinkled skirt and with traces of yesterday’s hair on her head, we understand that her night was clearly a success. And maybe even jealous. When we see a woman over 40 in an unironed dress and with an unkempt head, we understand: she is so wrapped up that she has neither time nor energy for herself. And maybe we even sympathize. Do you want to look younger? Don't dress to evoke sympathy!
After reading our rules, you may say: how can I comply with all this? Don’t dress too expensive, but at the same time make sure things are of high quality and don’t look cheap. Do not dress in everything classic and at the same time do not dress deliberately youthful. Don't look too sleek and don't look sloppy. After all, this is impossible!
Maybe! A living example is the same Meryl Streep. She is 65 years old, which is impossible to believe. Everything about her outfit is perfect! Things concise and simple, you can see in them fabric quality and execution, but there is no pomposity and merchant luxury. Enough large jewelry, but they modern design and don’t look “grandmotherly” at all. The perfect shade of white top refreshes the face. Current cut: top casually draped, soft folds on the skirt slim and lengthen the silhouette. A floor-length skirt, a minimum of naked body, only reveals beautiful thin wrists and visually lightens the hips, and one shoulder is also exposed, but what!
You could spend hours admiring this perfect, stylish outfit if it weren’t for Meryl Streep herself. No matter what she is wearing, you want to admire not the dress, but herself! She has a beautiful face full of charm and light, intelligent eyes that look at the world with interest, a warm, open, happy smile. And if something makes a woman younger, then first of all this!
Alena Baltseva |06/09/2015 | 10430
Alena Baltseva 06/9/2015 10430
Have you noticed how clothes affect our sense of self, mood and how others perceive us? Let's talk about how to dress to look young and fresh.
It's no secret that certain wardrobe items are subconsciously read as “youth” or “adults”. Whether you like it or not, ripped jeans will look youthful, but a down scarf will do the opposite.
However, let us remind you once again that “fashionable” tastes and preferences are an individual thing that every woman must decide for herself, taking into account her attitude, body shape and lifestyle. Therefore, we ask you to consider our advice as recommendations, nothing more.
"Youthful" clothes
You can safely include all items of children's and teenage wardrobe here, but this does not mean that an adult woman should borrow them. A perky dress for your daughter will make you not young, but a rejuvenating person. And these, as they say in Odessa, are two big differences!
- In this list we present only those clothes that you can fit into your image, regardless of age. Again, the list is not intended to be exhaustive or the only acceptable one. Jeans"skinny" and jeans"boyfriends"
- . While classic straight-fit jeans look more “grown-up”. Torn and distressed denim
- looks more casual than a solid color. High waisted dresses or dresses baby dollar
- (baby doll) in Balenciaga style (loose fit, low waist and frill with ruffles at the bottom). Jumpsuits And rompers
- (short overalls)..
- Crop Tops and Sweaters Tops and sweaters deliberately big size (the so-called style).
- "oversized" Hoodies
- (or, as they are commonly called, sweatshirts). Short shorts, skirts and dresses. In short, any.
- mini.
- Leggings and tights with print Collar
- "Peter Pan". Bouffant skirts
(including tulle or with tulle lining).
Again, this list is quite arbitrary. To summarize, you can add all the things that your grandmother could wear without the risk of being ridiculed by her neighbors in the hallway. This also includes all status and conservative wardrobe items.
- Pants with an arrow. Even if they are of excellent quality, paired with other conservative wardrobe items, such trousers will look too respectable.
- High neck jackets. Please note that modern models have a deep neckline and often ¾ sleeves.
- Knitted two-piece sets(jumper and cardigan from the same yarn).
- Buta print(almond-shaped oriental pattern). This is what our mothers wore, and it is associated with the last century.
- Sweatshirts with collar(especially with zippers). These days they don’t even wear them to the gym.
- Tweed and other dense suiting fabrics. Whatever one may say, they are perceived as good, respectable, and conservative.
- Crochet items. There are exceptions to all rules, but most often knitted blouses look “grown-up”.
How to find balance?
The conditional division of a wardrobe into “youth” and “grandmother’s” does not mean at all that you should wear exclusively things from the first category and forever abandon clothes from the second. The secret of success lies in the right combination of things.
For example, do you wear ripped jeans but are afraid of looking out of place in them? Complement them with a formal jacket. If you put on a tweed suit, dilute the strict look with printed tights.
The main thing is to understand how this or that item will be “read” when putting together a fashionable outfit.
Outdated styles
Often, clothes age simply because the cut or fabric has long since become obsolete. How to avoid this?
1. Don't buy trendy things
If a floral pattern from head to toe is in fashion this season, you shouldn’t completely update your wardrobe in accordance with this fashion trend, because next season it will most likely be considered completely bad taste.
Better to add to the image fashionable accents in the form of accessories: jewelry, bags, scarves. It is much easier and cheaper to replace them with current ones than outerwear and shoes.
2. Choose timeless styles
- Shoes. The classic stiletto heel most likely will not go out of style, unlike square heels. The same applies to the shape of shoes: a slightly pointed toe has remained fashionable for many seasons in a row, but square or long toes come and go.
- Leather jackets. Classic models are always in fashion: bombers (pilot jackets) and biker jackets (biker jackets). But leather jackets and jackets with fringes are not worth buying, although they have returned to fashion this year. Most likely it won't last long.
- Jeans. If you're in the habit of buying items to wear for a long time, it's best to invest in a classic pair: navy or light blue with a mid-rise and no trim.
- Jackets and suits. It is difficult to give one piece of advice on choosing a universal “two”. In this case, the rule “the simpler the better” applies. Pay attention to the collar, neckline, and sleeve length. Most often, they are the ones that reveal the outdatedness of the product.
3. Follow fashion
If you are reading this article, we have every reason to believe that you are still interested in fashion. Keep doing it! Periodically go to stores just to look and try on new things, study fashion trends, to navigate what and how it is now customary to wear.
Well, the most important advice: just be yourself! Only in this case will the clothes fit you naturally.
Refuse strict “age” suits. Heavy double-breasted jackets, straight mid-calf skirts, massive coats with English collars will turn you into a respectable middle-aged lady. If you are forced to comply with a dress code, wear shirt-cut dresses with a belt, suits made of bouclé fabric, and light cropped jackets with one button. Replace blouses with smooth knit tops or turtlenecks made of high-quality knitwear.
IN free time Don't give up your jeans. They suit any body type, it’s just important to choose the right style. Women with voluminous hips will go for loose models without pockets; petite women can try straight or slightly flared jeans. Pair them with chunky hand-knitted knits or thin cashmere sweaters.
When building your summer wardrobe, pay attention to dresses. These can be shirt-cut models, retro dresses with a smooth bodice and pleated skirts, or elegant straight styles. Choose outfits in light shades, plain or with floral prints. Such dresses look very young and cheerful.
Pay attention to the colors. Dark clothes make you look slimmer, but emphasize dull complexion and fine wrinkles. If you want to look younger, pair dark pants, skirts and dresses with light-colored tops, scarves or shawls. Light trim located near the face will also help: white collars, bows, ruffles.
Bright colors are not for everyone. But it is worth paying attention to deep, rich shades. Burgundy, dark red, rosewood, cocoa or night sky colors look very noble. When choosing blouses, sweaters and tops, give preference to warm colors. Peach, red, coral and pinkish shades will cast a warm glow on the face, making it look fresher and brighter.
Accessories that make you look younger
Don't assume that jewelry is only for young people. Among the modern collections you can find stylish jewelry, which are suitable for women of any age. Pay attention to massive necklaces, metal and wooden bracelets and rings with ornamental stones and Venetian glass. Don't get carried away with cameo brooches and pearls - these things are usually preferred by more “mature” ladies.
Indispensable accessories are scarves and scarves. It is better to wear products made from natural silk, viscose, and thin cotton. When choosing bags, pay attention to voluminous models that can be worn on the shoulder. Give up briefcases and typically handbags. Soft bucket bags in unusual colors will make you look modern and young. In the evening, they can be replaced with elegant clutches that look no less fashionable.
